We are in a tug of war battle with our traditions and our newly found acceptance with the general public. In the 'old days' we were a fringe sport played mostly by a motley group of characters and funny talkers from all walks of life. We toiled away on fields outside cities with only a few close friends and family members as spectators. Rugby and the general public only mixed at socials and often was met by equal parts amusement and that feeling you get when you pass a car wreck and can't look away. We were an early version of extreme athletes and we lived our lives that way. Now, teams have large corporations as sponsors, our college rugby has TV time, and in some cases TV money, and the youth game is exploding with parents choosing it over football. All of this is causing the traditions us old boys enjoyed to be scrubbed from our sport and replaced with a sterile 'professional' environment. Heck, even our songs aren't safe!
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Now, I don't want to see the entire social aspect of rugby wiped away because it is as important to the game as the ball we play with. It's what separates and makes us better people than football and soccer players. We are a united band of brothers and sisters who battle against each other for 80 minutes and then celebrate the effort put forth by everyone after regardless of team affiliation. But we have to be honest with ourselves now, our traditions are our hurting us.
We are at a critical point in our development as a rugby nation. Our national teams are starting to produce talent and wins, clubs are aligning themselves for a possible jump to a pro operation and the college game is the strongest and most marketable it has ever been. As the spotlight of the general public interest begins to acknowledge and accept our sport we need to be conscious of our image and how we as athletes, coaches and administrators are perceived by outsiders while we are in the glare of that light. This is the most important part of that last sentence and what this blog is about:
WE HAVE TO BE CONSCIOUS OF OUR IMAGE
For me personally, it is one of my greatest fears to be a head coach of a college program left to answer questions for actions and negative consequences of a decision making process I was not involved in. I have watched from a distance learning, both what and what not to do, as other coaches have gone through the process of defending their sports, culture and players against the stigma that Delaware 'I'm schmacked' party or the Virginia Tech hazing suspension, but I have had experiences with minor incidences and many close calls on bigger issues. It is my hope the content that you read below can save you, or a the very least help you manage, a PR nightmare.
Let us start by debunking some common phrases used by players (even some coaches) to justify questionable actions:
"I pay dues, I can do what I want"- I'm going to stop you right there. No you can't 'do what you want'. With that logic you should be able to stop an officer from giving you a ticket because you pay your taxes (those are your dues to be an American) and those taxes pay that officer's wages. Sounds pretty stupid right? That is what you sound like when you say it. When you pay your dues you are entering into a social contract to conduct yourself within the standard set by your team. These standards should be explained to you (or better yet, presented in a handbook and/or displayed around your club) when you join the team. It's often why clubs allow you to play a few games before you pay anything, so you understand what their expectations are. Just because you pay into a program doesn't mean you can disgrace it, that isn't doing what you want but in fact its you being an asshole and hurting the reputation of an organization that was there before you and will be there after.
"It was us as individuals, not a team thing."- One of the great things about team sports is the idea of surrendering the 'I' for the betterment of the 'We'. Now, while you are out in public by yourself you are John or Jane Doe and an individual but the instant that you are joined by a team mate you give up that individual identity and become a group with an identity found by a common interest, in this case rugby. People call this association. So, when you two posed for a calendar, host a party, steal something, etc and then attempt to excuse your actions as not being a 'rugby thing' your common link of being team mates will ALWAYS make it a rugby thing despite your best efforts to justify it otherwise. You don't believe me? Why don't you ask the Minnesota Vikings PR department if they enjoy the association to the Love Boat Scandal or the Caroline Panthers being associated to Greg Hardy's domestic abuse case. The proof that association is a thing is literally in the headlines. This childish, immature thought process is more often than not the reason for stupid things happening.
"It is tradition"- Look at your Facebook news feed. Do you notice anything? I do, puppy and baby pictures have been replaced by people using social media as a megaphone to tell you what they are offended by. These people are your friends who you share some kind of positive connection with. Now think about your team's traditions, would they offend your friends? How about your parents? If the school found out how would they respond? Has this tradition got your team into hot water before?
If you answered yes to even one of those is that tradition a benefit to your team culture or a danger to it? The great thing about traditions are they are only as long lasting as your team's collective memory so they can be changed. "It's tradition" is the sport equivalent of "We've always done it this way" in the business world. If you believe that both of those statements justify not changing a dangerous or poor practice then you're going to lose more than just that one 'tradition'.
I would encourage you to talk to your leaders, captains, and entire team about these sayings. Trust me, I've heard all of these as justification for an action and once that person did some self exploration they realized that those statements are just away to pretend they aren't guilty of some kind of wrong doing. Create an up-front contact with them that saying these 3 phrases isn't OK and if anyone says them it should be discussed further if it is in fact going to hurt your club.
Now let's look at some preventive measures:
Find an ally within an institution- We as rugby people have a belief that it is "us v them". You see/hear it all the time "The school hates us.." or "We aren't looked at as a serious team because...". While I understand in most cases the people saying these phrases aren't the cause for the poor perception and you shouldn't accept this as a problem you created, but instead as a mean to the solution. You, as the coach, can be the school's best resource to help them avoid a PR nightmare and you need to sell yourself as such. A simple E-mail introduction of yourself, acknowledgement of previous problems, your solutions on how to fix them and an olive branch of an offer to be partners in helping develop these young men and keep them out of trouble can go a long way. Find out who your players answer to and that is the person you should be contacting.
A coach is always under the scrutiny of association- This one I've learned the hard way. As coaches, our actions are always going to be under a microscope regardless if we are on the sidelines or in a bar with our buddies. When you become a coach you give up that individual title and become apart of the organization you work for. I'm no longer just 'Brandon Sparks' but I'm Brandon Sparks, head coach of University of Michigan'. I know the standards set by the university and I hold myself accountable to them the same way a varsity coach would. Why? Because, I don't want to embarrass my team, myself, or my family and I sure don't want to play into the stereotypical image of the rugby culture. I also want to be a role model for my players because it sends a poor message to be the coach that doesn't practice what he preaches.
Create a social media policy- The world is incredibly smaller than it was 10 years ago with things like Instagram, SnapChat, Twitter, Facebook, etc. We as coaches are faced with problems our coaches would have never thought of by dealing with technology we barely understand. These outlets are also where many problems arise from. Below is a practice I've taken from the business world and applied to teams I work with, a social media policy:
Players often don't understand the danger social media presents to themselves and their squad. This simple one page documents sets out a guideline to help protect the image of your club. To help with the buy-in rate encourage them to be a part of the set-up. Also, encourage an open discussion with them about positive and negative effects that social media can have on your team.
Be a sounding board for your team- We know that these kids aren't perfect and they are going to make mistakes, heck we have made plenty ourselves when we were that age. We also might have be involved in an incident that hurt our own rugby club. Don't be afraid to share those experiences and invite players to talk to you about possible decisions that could hurt their club. Good leaders are easy to relate with and approachable, but you need to show that side to your players first. They should also remember that the decisions they make away from you also directly affects your image.
I know in my own situations this is a tough issue to control. Emotionally I'm torn because of the nostalgic emotions that are created by my memories of my playing days but on the flip side as a professional coach I understand the changes that must occur in not just my own thinking but ours as a whole rugby community to progress this game. Do you agree with the ideas I shared? Do you have one of your own that I missed? Please share because